I remember as a kid I was taught the value of discipline by my grandparents. I remember when I was five years old, my grandfather would wake me up by 5 in the morning and would ask me to go for a walk or jog in the nearest wood.
I would always hate him for this act. I would always complain that I don’t get proper sleep or I get too tired but he would pay no heed. In course I got used to the practice of waking up early and going for morning jogs.
I remember it was during one such winter morning, the wind was blowing strong and it was nothing short of chilling. I pleaded with him not to go for jogging as I will fall ill. However he said you have never tried jogging in a chilly winter morning and it would be fun. After much pleading I gave up and went for my sneakers, I remember the awful feeling I had. It appeared I had no control over my life and will not have any comfort until this man lets me.
As we were slowly jogging through the woods and the winter wind brushing through my ears and nose, drops of tear would fall from my eyes. My ears and nose both had gone red. Seeing this he came near to me put his warm hands around me and said one day when I am not there you are going to remember this. After a pause he continued, ‘every boat sails easily when the wind is favoring them however only those who can sail when the wind changes direction are the ones that make it to their destination’.
It did not make any sense to a five year old. However I realized that people who are tough will go through tough situations. And this philosophy of mine developed at an early age by my grandfather (who is no longer here) have shaped my life. Any time a challenge or problem comes in, I stay strong and tough.
“No matter where you are in your life and no matter how big the challenges you are dealing with, Toady make it a habit to stay strong and tough in the face of challenges”
Have you ever asked the question why I always get a harsh bargain? Why problems do not seem to die? and why there is never a day without a challenge?
I asked the same question years back, completing my Engineering after spending all the hard earned savings of my parents, there seemed no job for me. I would run from pillar to post in search of a Job. Every morning and evening I would scan the newspapers in search of a suitable vacancy, make a list and follow up. Slowly I started to exhaust all that I had brought from home to this new city.
However luck smiled on me at last and I got a job. Now I was elated to know that my problems are over. However the first day of Job I was introduced to my team leader, I knew I would never get along. There came another problem. I wish the team leader get transferred, leave the job or don’t come to office. However none of these things would happen and every day I would face his wrath.
Again something magical took place and he got promoted, the person who replaced him was very likable. Life is back to normal minus the problems.
Little did I know another one is harping at the corner, my girlfriend of five years dumped me and I am single. Before I could complain ‘why this problem’? Not Again!
I met a old man who worked as a janitor of my building. He had one of the most caring and soothing voices, I shared everything with him expecting some sympathy. However instead he beat me to ground saying, ‘the reason we have problems is because we grow taller and stronger by them’. I could not reason with him as my emotions overshadowed his wise words.
However later I reflected on what he said and realized the truth behind it. There will be never be a time when problems will die or cease, however if they were not there we would have never developed a superior courage or belief in ourselves.
To walk taller and stronger stare at the problems and overcome them. “Your measure of greatness is in direction proportion to your ability to handle problems”. Make it a habit, you will create a wonderful leaving
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