The S Word

On a recent trip to a northen hill station, I met one of my college friend. He looked cheerful and years younger than me. He welcomed me with a bright smile and a warm hug. Although I had booked a hotel, he insisted that I spend that night with his entire family.

I remember this friend of mine used to be one of the most brilliant students of our class. He was the go to person for any study related queries. And I must confess I was jealous of his popularity. Everyone of us were certain that he will grow up to a high paying job. After completing graduation all of us moved in different direction and had hardly any time to keep in touch with eachother.

Now almost after a decade I am meeting him and I came to know that he works for the state government’s Public Relation Department. This is a decent paying job and he lives in his ancestral house which of course needs a lot of renovation. As well he drives the old Hero Honda Splendor. This left me with a lot of unaswered question and most of important of them how come he is so happy inspite of not achieving the materialistic targets?

After a lovely dinner at night, we went to his terrace. It was cold and we were having a hot coffee together. And I could not refrain myself from asking the obivous. He remained silent for a while and then answered it so beautifully that changed my prespective on life.

Here it goes, “after completing graduation I went to work for one of the well known media companies in Mumbai. However soon I became fade up with it. I saw humans without any human characteristics and values; they were more like machines working on commands. I fled that place and came back to my home town and applied for this government job. I soon got selected because of my academics and experience. I enjoy this job very much although it does not pay me to take overseas vacations twice a year or to buy a car. I enjoy helping common man get access to varius government schemes, I see the gratitude and pleasure in their eyes. And this makes me go to bed at night without any guilt or fear. And I must tell you since last nine and half years I have never experienced a sleepless night. I am blessed to be staying with my family and not with facebook. I am blessed to enjoy the beauty of nature and breath fresh air and eat fresh vegetables. ”

He paused for a moment and the silence was awakard for me as I was so drawn into the conversation. He then dropped a bomb, “ Success to me is to be in peace with myself & enjoy every moment of my life. Whereas most people  tend to put off their enjoyment till their vacations or their retiremnet and I wonder do they really enjoy then?”

I said ‘no wonder you look years younger …..’

So what is your definition of Success? Plz Leave your comment….

Walking Taller

Have you ever asked the question why I always get a harsh bargain? Why problems do not seem to die? and why there is never a day without a challenge?
I asked the same question years back, completing my Engineering after spending all the hard earned savings of my parents, there seemed no job for me. I would run from pillar to post in search of a Job. Every morning and evening I would scan the newspapers in search of a suitable vacancy, make a list and follow up. Slowly I started to exhaust all that I had brought from home to this new city.

However luck smiled on me at last and I got a job. Now I was elated to know that my problems are over. However the first day of Job I was introduced to my team leader, I knew I would never get along. There came another problem. I wish the team leader get transferred, leave the job or don’t come to office. However none of these things would happen and every day I would face his wrath.
Again something magical took place and he got promoted, the person who replaced him was very likable. Life is back to normal minus the problems.
Little did I know another one is harping at the corner, my girlfriend of five years dumped me and I am single. Before I could complain ‘why this problem’? Not Again!

I met a old man who worked as a janitor of my building. He had one of the most caring and soothing voices, I shared everything with him expecting some sympathy. However instead he beat me to ground saying, ‘the reason we have problems is because we grow taller and stronger by them’. I could not reason with him as my emotions overshadowed his wise words.

However later I reflected on what he said and realized the truth behind it. There will be never be a time when problems will die or cease, however if they were not there we would have never developed a superior courage or belief in ourselves.

To walk taller and stronger stare at the problems and overcome them. “Your measure of greatness is in direction proportion to your ability to handle problems”. Make it a habit, you will create a wonderful leaving